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You need to approach problems, not as obstacles stopping you, but merely tasks that need to be completed for you to keep going. But perhaps in that failure is a lesson. Where are you stuck? Skip the dysfunctional cycle of getting back together whenever you miss each other or are lonely and remember that you broke up for a legit reason.

To bring you the best content on our sites and applications, Meredith partners with third party advertisers to serve digital ads, including personalized digital ads. To err is human, but to forgive is divine. Read your reasons for needing to break up with him and see if they still feel true. Perhaps you just don't enjoy being together.

How to Break Up Respectfully

You can block, unfollow, or soft-block which is when you block someone already following you, then unblock them immediately. This lets them still look you up and see your profile, but they will no longer be following you. Create an ex-free environment. As the old adage goes: out of sight, out of mind. Donate or throw away anything that reminds you of your ex. But what about stuff like expensive jewelry or photos from a vacation you took together? Why should you have to throw away all your photos from the first time you went to Paris just because you took them with someone else? Learn how to productively talk about the breakup. Burns also suggests telling your friends that if your conversations resort to trash talking or taking the victim role in a month or two, they should gently call you out and remind you. This will give you that extra push you need to move forward in your grieving process. This is an impulse because you don't want to seem like you care too much about the breakup. Because you're so chill. You're so chill that your heart isn't beating. But truthfully, during this stilted, awkward breaking-up period, it's hard to tell whether you'll be able to be friends or not. Generally, one person wants to be friends and the other wants to be more. Gotta work that shit out before it can be a healthy friendship … if it ever can be. You're not admitting defeat by not staying friends with him. If you feel an impulse to get drunk alone, call some friends instead. It's the worst being alone and sad and drunk. When you've just broken up with someone, you get all nihilistic, and because there is probably not a Hot Topic near you to get some KoRn CDs, you get too hammered to see and wind up hooking up with a 50-year-old married man with a ponytail in a bar bathroom. At least be sad with people you love! We've all been heartbroken — it's not like they'll judge you for drinking wine with dirty hair, in Family Guy pajamas. If you want to drunk-text, get your friend to take your phone away or throw it in a volcano. Oh, the number of times I have drunk-texted something cryptic to an ex at 2 a. Drunk-texting an ex is a two-steps-forward-one-step-back slide down the rabbit hole. Begin some kind of intense, rage-based workout routine. Maybe this isn't a good time for yoga! Maybe it's a good time for something new, like kickboxing. Really get some of that negative stuff out. Spend a lot of time outside. It's a cliché, but fresh air really does clear your head. So does, you know, seeing the sun every once in a while. Take at least two hours from each day just to leave your Cave of Forgotten Dreams and interact with The Outside. Know it's okay to rely on your friends. Hang out with people that appreciate you and remind you of what a good person you are. Eat your night cheese. Yep, you have full permission to pull a Liz Lemon on work on your night cheese during a breakup. Rebound with one incredibly hot guy, if that's what you want, and then give yourself some time to decompress and remember who you are. Go out and get yourself some strange from a guy who is either a King of Leon or just has dirty hair. It's hard to tell the difference. But then slow down and be low-key for a while. If you've had one rebound, you've had them all, in this woman's opinion. If you start dating someone else, take it really slow. You just ended a relationship and your heart flipped over and exploded like a tanker in a Jean-Claude Van Damme movie. If you take it step by step and enjoy it as a casual thing for a while, that'll give you some time to evaluate whether you're actually ready to be with someone again or if you're just ready to have really hot sex with them in an elevator once in a while. Burns says to take time to become mindfully aware of your emotions and label them. The whole point is to get you to notice the emotions. Walfish, also explains that by allowing yourself to grieve, you open the door for new possibilities to come. Establish a bedtime routine. Walfish recommends going to bed at the same time and setting your alarm for the same time every time, and avoiding looking at screens TV, computer, cell phone for half an hour before bed. Not only does the light from screens keep you awake, but how many times has some unexpected drama on the timeline or an innocent Instagram scroll accidentally spiraled into a two-hour deep-dive of their life? Allow yourself to cry when you need to. Thus preventing a giant tidal wave of feels to wash over you in the workplace, or the DMV, or anywhere else inappropriate. If you get a Facebook invite to his best friend's party... There is always a strong temptation to show up with a fresh blowout and a low-cut J. Lo Grammys dress, and grind with his friend that you hate just to make him jealous. And seeing him will just pick the scab open. Don't scheme to get him back — scheme to get yourself back. Get some solid book recs, join a pickup sports game, go on a trip somewhere with a girlfriend. Paint your bathroom; I don't care. Just do something for yourself. Write him heartbroken letters and never send them. Get it all out — on paper, so as to avoid accidentally sending them. Avoid posting the details on Facebook. Airing your grievances on social media is not good for anyone, and it'll be embarrassing later. Who's gonna read it, anyway? That girl you met during Welcome Week? When's the last time you really filled up your tub clean it first, please and had a good soak with a glass bottle of wine? Showers are not for the recently dumped. It's almost reverse-narcissistic to blame yourself that much! If you try to look at the relationship from the outside, maybe you'll have an easier time seeing how you both contributed to the breakup. Actually an asteroid did, but let's not quibble. 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I have been crying for over 2 weeks, struggling to regroup and accept what just happened. We can take hints. If that solo doesn't contain your man, then it is time to end things with him, even if you still have feelings. So I opened up the iMessage app and went to read their previous conversation to see what was happening, so I could tell a relevant joke. Eventually I separated and met my husband. Dragging things out makes it harder in the long run — for you and your BF or GF. Why should you have to throw away all your photos from the first time you went to Paris just because you took them with someone else. You civil ended a relationship and your heart flipped over and exploded like a tanker in a Jean-Claude Van Damme movie. Do you actually want to break up because of problems inside the relationship, or do you just feel pressured to break up because of your parents. In the end everyone con a time to get over from sad to happy emotions.